For many riders, the barn is their second home and second family. It's hard for non-equestrians to understand the commitment and dedication involved in owning and riding horses. Choosing a counsellor or therapist that understands the particular challenges involved in this lifestyle is important.I am a rider and instructor myself and have owned horses on and off since 1989.
It's important that your counsellor understand that an equestrian accident is a significant trauma just like a car accident. Sometimes trauma from a riding accident is even worse because both you and your beloved horse are injured. This causes increased stress and possibly the burden of making the decision to euthanize your partner. I understand the pain related to equestrian trauma and can help you recover.
It's common for word to travel fast through the equestrian community. I understand this and I abide by strict confidentiality policies. While I believe that it's normal to have challenges in life, at one time or another, I understand that you want to keep your challenges private.
All equestrians are familiar with seeking assistance from an expert when they have a horse related problem. It's important to treat your people problems the same way. If you are struggling with a personal issue in your life it is likely effecting your riding in some way or another. Our bodies, moods and thoughts influence our horses. Take care of your people problems so you can fully enjoy doing what you love - working with your horse.
Sometimes riders need a little extra support at horse shows or events. I travel to shows in the lower mainland and provide one-on-one counselling support to help you put into practice the tools and skills you learned in your counselling sessions. Whether you are recovering from PTSD or show anxiety I can help.
Equestrians are busy people with multiple different roles to play (rider, coach, instructor, trainer, owner etc) I provide practical tools and strategies for the management of interpersonal issues and other mental health concerns. By using evidence based treatments I make sure you are getting the most from our sessions together.
Many riders struggle with performance anxiety regardless of discipline. It doesn't matter how good you are, anyone can have anxiety about going into the ring.
When the worst happens we sometimes get stuck and can't let go of it. Dreams, flash backs, constant worry or fear of riding are all common symptoms of trauma in riders. We can work on overcoming this and getting you back on the horse (so to speak).
Every barn has it big or small. People who make life difficult or even miserable are everywhere. I can help you uncover what, or who, is causing your barn drama dilemma and teach you strategies for managing the uncomfortable behavior. Read my article in the September 2018 issue of Horse Sport Magazine for some tips today! https://horse-canada.com/magazine_articles/avoid-barn-drama/
Does your Coach, Parent or Partner tell you that you're doing great but you just don't believe it? Sometimes we are our own worst critic. Let me help you build some self-compassion and boost your confidence.
Perfectionism isn't just for Dressage riders or Hunters. It can be a problem for many riders. That nagging feeling that it's just not good enough - ever. Learn to let go of perfection and aim for excellence instead.
Want to be more present in the moment with your horse? Mindfulness training can help you focus on the here and now and let go of the past and future thoughts that are constantly intruding on your equestrian experience. Read my article in the November 2018 issue of Horse Sport Magazine for tips on managing the 5 Things in Life We Cannot Change!
FOG (Fear Obligation & Guilt) in the Barn
Barn Drama part I
Personality Disorders in the Barn
(More Barn Drama - part II)